How and when to decline a selling party invitation?

October 5th, 2009 | Posted in Etiquette   Comments Off
Craig R asked:


My wife is frequently invited to “selling parties” where the hostess is sponsoring a company that comes in to sell stuff to those in attendance. The hostess receives credit for the sales and is able to buy stuff herself at a discount or free.

Should these be viewed as a business transaction in which one is free to simply decline if they are not interested in the merchandise being sold? Or is it a social event hosted by a friend in which the invitation should be accepted out of courtesy even if she has no interest in the product being sold?

She doesn’t sponsor these things herself, so there’s no issue of hypocrisy here (declining others’ invitations then expecting them to come to hers) but doesn’t want to hurt the feelings of her friends who hold these parties.

DARREL